Whether dating another disabled person or an able-bodied person, talk to each other and find out what arrangements
need to be made.
Dating4Disabled was developed by a group of volunteers
who wanted to provide more social, intellectual and romantic outlets for people with disabilities.
Members can come together through forums, a dating service, private chats, and blogs, among other features, providing people with mobility issues the opportunity to fulfill their social needs from the convenience of their own home.
The site has also incorporated large font options and supporting icon comments to assist the visually challenged.
The members of Dating4Disabled can network internationally in an understanding, safe and non-committal atmosphere. This unique cyberspace community facilitates an embarrassment-free opportunity for people with disabilities to express themselves, make friends, and hopefully find a partner for life, with out the pressure of uncertain face-to-face meetings. The support and understanding available in the dating4disabled family makes for an exciting new "home away from home".
Our free membership is simple and quick. In the 2 minute sign-up, people create a profile which tailors their online preferences and enables other members to know more about them and what they are looking for. One can customize their interactions by type of relationship, life-challenge, location, interests and more.
All these tools and features provide an enjoyable and valuable online experience. The potential for net-working, meeting new people and creating relationships is unlimited. Dating4Disabled provides its members with the opportunity to utilize the World Wide Web for their own unique needs, and to open windows of possibility to the international disabled community.
For more information, contact Erin Shamberg firstname.lastname@example.org or visit us at http://www.dating4disabled.com
Helpful Hints for Meeting Online
Safety-wise, meeting on the Net is inherently similar to meeting offline. As long as the same standard dating precautions are followed, cyber-savvy daters can feel truly at ease while getting to know each other. The main thing to remember: trust your instincts and use common sense just as you would offline.
Remember that you are in control of your online experience at all times. You can remain completely anonymous until
you feel ready.
Please report any suspicious members, messages or postings to Dating4Disabled immediately. This will ensure your safety and the safety of other members.
For your safety, all public Dating4Disabled correspondence is monitored daily, and member profiles are scanned for fraudulent information. Dating4Disabled uses advanced screening technology, as well as daily manual filtering in order to avoid "preditors" from entering the site.
Talking About Disability on a Date
Discussing your disabilities on a date can be difficult: your new partner is probably curious about the extent of your sexual abilities. Can you have intercourse? What special needs do you have? What are your limits or particular talents?
The hardest part of this conversation can be deciding when to have it. How does one lead into the subject? Do you talk about disability at the onset of the first date, or wait until the second, third or fourth meeting?
People living with disabilities tend to worry about saying too much or not saying enough. Place these feelings of anxiety aside! Discussion about a person's disability typically comes up naturally within conversation. For example, a conversation could begin around a modified van, a Seeing Eye dog, the use of sign language or a prosthetic device or mobility aide. When these subjects arise, respond honestly and openly to questions, and your prospective partner will understand you are comfortable discussing your disability.
Ironically, while you are worrying about how and when to bring up the limits imposed by your disability, your date is no doubt struggling with questions, afraid of offending you, but wanting information. For example, your date may wonder what arrangements need to be made to accommodate your disability during an evening out. Can you walk a few steps unaided, or do you require your wheelchair at all times? Are you comfortable with having a menu read to you, or would you prefer to dine only in restaurants that offer Braille menus?
If he or she is unfamiliar with dating a disabled person, as many people are the first time they do so, your date may simply blurt out, "What is your disability, and what do I need to do to arrange a date?" Although some individuals feel comfortable with this direct approach, others may not know how to respond to such a remark. Be compassionate, and try not to get offended. Remember, your date is simply trying to ensure you both enjoy yourselves.
It is important to remember that these questions also come up when two people with disabilities date each other. Contrary
to popular belief, the disabled are not all alikeâ€”we do have questions about our friends and dating
partners with different types of disabilities.
Discuss your disability, don't lecture an audience.
Treat a date like any other social situation. Talk about your disability as it naturally occurs in conversation. If you are asked directly about it, answer with details that are informative, but don't launch into a 30-minute speech about your condition. If this date turns into a more serious relationship, you'll find plenty of time to discuss the specifics of your disability.
Talk from a script.
If you feel ill at ease discussing your disability, think about what you may want to say ahead of time. Sometimes people practice with a friend how they plan to discuss their disability. If you prefer to practice alone, use a tape recorder or even a mirror to get an idea about how you come across and what words bolster your confidence.
Plan your response to questions.
If it makes you feel better, think about what you might say if you were asked directly about your disability. Some people have a standard response they always give to questions; for example, someone may say, "I am deaf and this is why my speech may seem different to you." Some people may want to take this a step further and say, "I have 20% hearing ability in my right ear, so if you sit on my left side, I think we'll have a more enjoyable conversation." Think about what feels right to you, and go for it!
Talk about your dating partner's disability.
Creating an environment open to discussion helps the person with the disability feel a sense of power over a potentially uncomfortable situation. Try something like, "I'm not sure if you feel comfortable answering this question, but I was wondering if you would mind discussing your disability?" This phrasing gives the person with a disability the choice of whether or not they'd choose to engage in these issues, and shows him or her you are comfortable discussing the matter.
Refrain from asking overly personal questions on the first date.
One often assumes that it is acceptable to ask people with disabilities very personal questions. For example, it is not uncommon for people to be asked, "How do you go to the bathroom?" "How do you shower?" or "Can you have sex?" While many of us think that it is not unreasonable to ask for such personal information, it is important to keep in mind that people with disabilities are entitled to the same amount of privacy as anyone else.
Here are other dating and relationship resources for people with disabilities
* Disabled dating by DAWN - Disabled dating by D.A.W.N.: Differently Abled Winner's Network, an introduction matchmaking service primarily, but not exclusively, for people with disabilities.
* Disabled dating service - Dating4disabled - online community for disabled. - Dating4disabled - online community for disabled. is an online community which offers personal blogs, discussion forums, private chat, a dating service and more.